Advice I would give my younger self: if someone has a reputation for fighting for a cause you believe in, that says nothing about whether they are a kind person. If you meet or interact with them, it will go as well as if you met someone at random you've never heard of.

If someone has a reputation for kindness, then meeting them will probably go well. I've never regretted meeting someone after a person I trust said of them "Wow person xyz is the nicest, kindest human being I know."


This may seem like basic stuff but I constantly commit the error of, "Wow I admire the work of a person on certain moral/ethical/political issues, surely we will get along."

@darius i found out the hard way a number of times the same applies to *groups* based around [topic or cause you are into]. you find the same percentage of racists and rapists in any group regardless of political, religious, socioeconomic etc etc alignment.


I like the part where they're supercilious/aloof/cred n' status-obsessed twits whose attitudes towards a newcomer are lifted straight from the worst stereotypes about prep schools and country clubs. Not that I'm bitter or anything.


Its interesting how three people could share political goals or striving for ideals, and their personality and cultures may be incompatible

@darius oh gosh this is real. One huge attraction of my current job was that my boss was beloved by the department as a kind person (which I knew from having 2 friends in the dept). 2 years in, I can say it's true. People also respond so positively when they learn she's my boss.

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