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At what age did you stop calling them “concerts” and start calling them “shows” and why?

I’m trying to become a person who washes their face before bed every day. Is this the secret to clear skin at 30?

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TFW your tea is exact optimum temperature and you know it won't last so now you must chug tea

Back at work after two weeks off and the song "my heart's not in it" has been playing in my head on repeat ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Jet lag + shorter days = every time my alarm goes off at 7 I think it’s 2am.

Lessons from dog: did it stop raining for 5 minutes? GO OUTSIDE IMMEDIATELY before it rains again!

Lessons from dog: get in the sun at every possible chance during the rainy season.

The way people patiently explained things via pointing and gestures when we didn’t speak the same language. So helpful.

Consideration of others in public spaces. Didn’t experience manspreading once. No one encroached on my personal space unnecessarily.

Quietness. It’s common etiquette to not talk too loud in public spaces. Especially the train. So even totally crowded trains didn’t feel *too* overwhelming because at least the general vibe was quiet and calm.

7-11 onigiri. It was a little tough to find food without meat / fish in it in Tokyo (dashi is in everything) but 7-11 saved the day more than once for us.

Japanese bathrooms are totally waterproof!! Like you can spray the entire thing down and there’s a drain outside of the tub for that reason. Also the tub is smaller but deeper for better soaking.

@ellen The clever use of small spaces. Everything has a place and storage is created in every nook. Furniture and objects are generally smaller. Our 624 square foot house feels enormous now.

Fave things from Japan:

The consideration of details. Like, you must take your shoes off to go into a fitting room, and when you come out, someone has turned your shoes facing the other way so they’re easier to put on.

@ellen oh yeah and Japan is wonderful and amazing and I’m never coming back.

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Friend Camp

The decentralized web is about trust. You should only join Friend Camp if you personally trust Darius Kazemi with your social media data. You probably only have that level of trust if we are IRL friends or have been internet friends for a long time. Generally speaking this is a small, closed community. In the end, Darius is the arbiter of what is allowed here. If you don't have a good idea of the kind of behavior that flies with Darius, again, you probably shouldn't join this instance. In the interest of specificity, we do have a code of conduct and privacy policy which you should read.

Friend Camp features several modifications that were requested by our users.

  • you can log in via any subdomain, which means you can log in to multiple accounts in the same browser session (for example, log in once on and then as another user on
  • they are no longer called "toots", they are now "posts"
  • if you have a locked account and you get a follow request, a reminder appears under your "post" button (on normal Mastodon mobile it is otherwise buried in a sub-menu and you might not see it for a long time)
  • the emoji dropdown is a neutral smiley face instead of the cry-laughing smiley
  • @mentions are rendered as "@user" for a Friend Camp user and "@user@domain" for remote users. This helps clear up when you follow two people who have the same username on different servers.
  • there is a "never ask me again" checkbox on the confirmation for clearing your notifications -- more info here
  • images in a CW'ed post are collapsed behind the CW. When you expand the CW, you can see the whole image immediately. more info here
  • When an mp3 link is in a post, we also embed an inline mp3 player. git commit here

Important Bit from the Privacy Docs

If you want decent privacy (the info doesn't leave this server), the only way to do that is to set your account to private, only accept friend requests from other users, and only ever @ mention other users. Once you start talking to people on other servers, all bets are off. Any private message you send to someone on another server could be looked at by the admin of a different server. This is kind of like email: if you are on a private email server, and you send an unencrypted email to a gmail account, congrats, Google now has the content of that email. But also, you do this every day, so, hey. The internet!

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